Love Letters

On a day like today
We passed the time away
Writing love letters in the sand
How you laughed when I cried
Each time I saw the tide
Take our love letters from the sand

Pat Boone

I have been collecting what I refer to as “love letters” ever since this blog started. I’ve delayed posting them because I wanted to get as many as I could, and also because the content began to morph so much that I wanted to see exactly how far it would go.

They have died down for a while now, and it’s time to go public.

I have been more or less anonymous, using the obvious pseudonym “Blessed Little Blogger,” not because I was afraid of anyone, but because my spouse asked me to do it. His concern was Joe Naugler.

Joe Naugler has a criminal record, a history of threatening people.  Even now, Nicole and Joe both are very quick to talk publicly and often about “defending” their “rights” and they mean using guns.

Nicole comment

That comment was made today (February 21, 2016).  She’s made similar remarks before. And even though my husband does not read this stuff, he’s seen enough to be mildly concerned.

Remember, I’m not doing a single thing to these people but making public commentary about their very public commentary.  The stuff they wanted to “go viral.”  If they had not pushed themselves into the public space, I would never have known they existed.

But regardless, I agreed that I would make a more or less half-hearted attempt to remain anonymous.

When I first started this blog, I had no way for anyone to contact me except by leaving a comment.  I knew this was inconvenient, but it worked for a little while.  So the love letters began as comments.

dated 12/25/15 10:57 p.m.

Here’s an example. Obviously, the person leaving the comment was not Sally Davis. The email address is fake. The IP address is a proxy.  The link is real.  It was a message.

He was telling me that he thought I am Sally Davis and that Sally Davis has a blog at that link and that I should look at it.

More followed.

dated: 12/25/15 9:31 p.m.
dated: 12/25/15 9:50 p.m.
dated: 12/25/15 10:03 p.m.
Sally Davis
date: 12/25/15 9:05 p.m.

And there was more of this sort of silly nonsense.  I captured screen shots, saved the messages, and ignored it.

Then the messages changed a little because he really wasn’t sure at all.

date: 12/19/15

Joe bloom

same time
Not sure of the date of this.

And a whole slew of them at once.  Manic stuff.


Somebody was convinced that the Blessed Little Blogger was not Sally Davis, after all, but in fact, Lisa Duran-Luthi.  Because he’d somehow linked her IP address to the blog.

So I (or Lisa) was supposed to be afraid.

Sometime during this period, I set up a contact form so people could contact me privately and an email exchange would be possible, so I started getting love letters via the contact form as well as on the comment page.

email Lisa

They got the break they needed.  At last. I was so glad to read that.

good at job

So, he’s good at his “job.” Really?

Right in the beginning of the blog, we had a commenter who was clearly a Naugler supporter who used the screen name Jonathan Blakely. His comments are almost entirely on the Barney page. In spite of the fact that he obviously disagreed with me vehemently and voiced his displeasure,  he was not unbearably offensive, and I allowed his comments.  I did do what any reasonable person would do and checked his IP address and quickly realized that he was using a proxy. [Note: I’m going to do a whole page on IP addresses because it’s a misunderstood subject and one people use to create fear, but that’s later.]

I gave him a little hell about being in Sweden on one post, and then being in London an hour later.  He tried to explain that he was in Europe, which was obviously silly, but finally sent a note admitting the proxy.


But notice the love letter above his?  That one, just like all the others, was not written by Teresa Frogue, but was a feeler thinking that maybe Teresa was the Blogger.

The interesting thing is the IP address.

Jonathan Blakely and the love letter writer are the same person.  And furthermore, the love letter writer is in Breckinridge County, Kentucky.

Amazing.  And remember, he’s “good at (his) job.”

But all this was just silly crap.  It was no different than a lot of the silly stuff occurring on these various Facebook pages, with insults being tossed back and forth like popcorn.

Only then it began to change a little.

dated 12/25/15 10:51 p.m.

This one is saying, “We know your address. Be afraid of us.”

fuck you



So, he started with the insults.  That’s okay, too.  I ignored them and stashed them away.


The “legal expert” one, of course, was the basis for the page about Barney.

dated: 12/25/15 10:07 p.m.
my garden Nancy Furman
date approximately 1/22/16 (that’s the date I have on the screen shot – it could be earlier than that, of course)

Right in the middle of this, they ran off a cliff with this photo.  From the page on gardening, this is a photo, in fact, of my garden.  I believe I said so when I used it.  It’s my garden.  I planted the potatoes in the foreground.  The tripods in the far background are used for pole beans.

And the person who admins that page thought he’d “seen this before.”

Nancy Furman
dated 1/22/16 11:29 a.m.

Sigh.  Make up your fucking minds, will you please?

dated 1/7/16 10:47 a.m.

And it bounced around.

But then it started to turn really sort of ugly.

not give a shit
I have no date on this one. Perhaps “Jack Schitt” can enlighten us.

What does that mean?  “. . . she will be dealt with accordingly.”  Dealt with?  By whom?  By an overweight unemployed dead-beat who thinks he can bully people using fake identities?  I think not.

white trash
dated 12/26/15 4:54 p.m.

Say the people who live in a garden shed.

But it got a bit worse.


So, a complete stranger is going to punch two people in the mouth, when they aren’t even sure who they are talking to, and when the spouse doesn’t have anything to do with this?

Doesn’t this constitute a threat?

I mean, I laughed, but really?

And then it got even worse.

dated 1/4/16 8:13 a.m.
Nathan suicide
dated 1/6/16 1:34 p.m.
dated 1/7/16 9:02 a.m.

Read those again. The person writing this lives in Breckinridge County, Kentucky.  I do not believe it’s Nicole, although I’m quite sure she knows all about these notes.  I think it’s either Joe or the oldest son (the messages started not long after I refused to allow the son to comment on the blog).

The person isn’t really sure that he’s talking to Sally Davis at all.  He’s sending out feelers everywhere trying to establish my identity but he’s not really sure.

And he says that shit.  These are messages from a person who is a member of a  “faith driven unschooling off grid wilderness homesteading family of 13 people, pets and a few random farm animals living a back to basics minimalist life.”

I am not a superstitious person, but if I had eleven children, I would be very careful about tempting fate like that.

In case you want to know more about what he’s talking about, you can read all about it.

His name was Nathan. He was enormously talented.  He died on August 22, 2006 when he was thirty, in his sleep. It was not a “miserable death.”  Nor was his death a suicide. Nor was he ever abused by anyone. And he was an atheist. There is no “hell,” and he is not “looking up” from anywhere.

And yes, I am his mother.


ValerieAh, they got me.  Caught.  🙂

Only, I wasn’t trying to imply that all of them came in that exact order.  I was grouping them more by subject matter.

No matter.  I aim to please and I certainly don’t aim to deceive.  So, I went back and added a note with the date and time each one was received (if I have that information).

What you will notice is that they came sometimes once a day, and sometimes in spurts (the Love Letter author was especially busy on Christmas day).  And they did, in fact, escalate in content, although that hardly matters.

The last one I got was the “punch in the face” one, at least as far as I can tell. And very frankly, that one was a line drawn in the sand as far as Dave and I are concerned.

Valerie, a personal note to you.  You are more than welcome to come here and comment and disagree with me all  you want.  Anyone is.  I don’t bite unless you call me names or say rotten things about my dead son or threaten to punch me in the face. Do you have good arguments to defend Joe and Nicole? Please, by all means, state them.

I’m not sure what you thought you were accomplishing with this great sleuthing insight, however, you did me a huge favor, so thank you very much. In looking back to find the dates on those, I discovered a bunch more that I had overlooked.

Here they are (I have blocked my personal email address from view):






The link there goes to a silly childish little gif that says “Canadians are weird,” meant to insult Denise, I assume.


And this link leads to another gif.  I didn’t even bother to follow that one, so I have no idea what’s there.




SD is blogger



god damned idiot

And one more update:

Nicole has admitted that she wrote this crap.






23 thoughts on “Love Letters”

  1. The whole time I was reading the messages I was thinking “this sounds like a child”, “this must be a child”, “this has GOT to be a child”.
    I don’t know who wrote those messages but their parents do and amends weren’t made. No one has taught these kid’s a thing, maybe they don’t know any better but if they don’t learn they won’t ever fit into any community anywhere.
    This kid needs to speak up and this thing needs to be dealt with.

    I’m so sorry, Sally. I’ve heard references to the Naugler’s taunting you about your son’s death but I never knew the details. Your restraint is remarkable.


  2. Sally, your son’s song on this page literally brings a tear to my eyes.

    First off, I give you a standing ovation for all of your hard work. This blog has been a constant source of entertainment since I found it.
    I am so sorry about the “love letters” they are desperate acts from desperate people.
    Lastly, Joe and Nicole you two suck, you are the most worthless piece of shit excuses for parents, humans, anything. Since I am also an atheist, I’m not going to bother condemning you hell, besides your already in it, your just either too stupid or too stubborn to admit it.


  3. I’m so sorry for the loss of your son and I see that the 10th anniversary is later this year. There’s something about certain anniversaries that often stir things to the surface and sometimes make some days a touch more bitter than bittersweet.

    I know you have never forgotten him and that you miss him. As do others. Perhaps this year some of his other friends will share new anecdotes with you (the kind of stories we prefer NOT to share with our parents – no matter how old we are – because they’re our shared experiences with our peers) and you will have reason to laugh out loud with delight at the person who was your beloved son.

    Losing your child is so hard there is no word in common use in the English language for it. Perhaps “vilomah” will eventually take hold and be added to the OED.

    In all honesty, I’m a bit surprised that Lithuanian lacks the equivalent of “vilomah”, since it has retained the most elements of Sanskrit or even Proto-Indo-European language. I don’t know when “vilomah” first arose, but my best guess is either it didn’t last or it developed after the seminal events that gave rise to Lithuanian. Of course, it’s a word that has been rediscovered, if you will. So perhaps despite its poignancy, or perhaps because of it, it never took hold. After all, sometimes to name an event and discuss it was thought to bring unwanted attention to your family and risk it occurring. Although there were always small numbers of people or groups who felt that to name an event, or a thing, was to minimize that risk.

    Sorry, I’m wandering around the church widdershins again. I’m sorry. I hope this year brings a bit more sweetness, despite the rabbit droppings in your inbox.


  4. A lot to process and read again. And will come back for comments. I am so sorry, for what they are capable of, has happened to you.

    Right now, just thank you for sharing Nathan with us. I was drawn to the link, and found myself listening to his music. And the photographs. So extraordinarily talented.


  5. Sally
    My heart goes out to you for the loss of your son.

    Yes they have been terrible with the treats, doxing and harassing. If they think that is going to drive people away or make them silent they have another thing coming. Buzz at me with crap like that and it pisses me off. The more you piss me off the more I will become a bee in your bonnet.

    We trolls KNOW what they are doing is wrong by those kids. The more they try to scare and threaten us the more we will stand strong. Pretty sad when total strangers care more about the kids than their own parents do. I have a hard time wrapping my head around why the hell are the grandparents and extended family upholding this crap. The only thing that would have stopped me from being there on the spot if my grand children were removed and speaking up in court would be if I were hooked up to life support. I place as much blame on extended family. They need to buck up and face the facts that one of their own is not doing right to their grandchildren, nephews and nieces. So what if there is a black spot in the family tree stand up for those kids.

    Standing Tall for the KY 11! It takes a village even strangers to raise a child.


  6. Your son was amazingly talented and beautiful. His time too short, but he graciously left behind his music to reach out and continue to touch people.

    Inexcusable cruelty from poor excuses for human beings, IMO. For a couple who, when they deem it to be to their advantage, proclaim their sadness at the loss of their connection with Joe’s son Alex, they appear to lack any empathy at all for anyone, be they family or stranger.

    This type of capacity for cruelty and hatred is so hard for a normal person to believe. The mind shies away from it, choosing to deny the existence of such horror.

    As always my worries for those vulnerable children, still under their dominion, knows no bounds. Every time Joe states that his children are reverent, I cringe with a strong feeling of what that word means in his mouth.

    Perhaps, due to your exposure of the heinous thought processes and behavior of these self promoting and hypocritical “viral stars” more people will understand why so many people care and why they follow this sordid tale. Perhaps even some of those manipulated by their self promoting propaganda will see the light. Perhaps others new to the scene will not be so easily fooled. One can only hope and persevere.


  7. Sally,

    As I read the filth being posted, I realized one thing. You are reaping what you’ve sowed. Your “blog” is used as a form of harassment and bullying, yet you want to cry that you’re being harassed and bullied. Please! Cry me a handful, grow up and stop your harassment of this family. Your actions has created a reaction. One way to stop the reaction Sally, is to stop your vile actions! You said, if “Nicole” shut down her blog, page, etc. that you would go away. That is a serious threat and does have consequences that you will eventually face. I still look forward to watching you go down. I am not a Naugler, I am not a relative, I am not a friend of theirs Sally. You should know who I am. Think real hard, and it will come to you. Until we chat again, goodbye!


  8. So much in this post, BLB, quite a bit to absorb and process. I know I will find myself coming back numerous times, to add comments in the discussions. What it feel like now, is like the building up to the climax of an incredible truth revealing, to the incredulous Naugler story. You know what I mean? Like reading a book, and now on the other side of the climax. An exhaling moment, where it is all coming together.

    In following since the very beginning, I have seen what the Nauglers and associates are capable of, in attempting to silence the critics. In attempting to silence the truth seekers, and the truths. The fear in attempting to make examples of some, to hold them culpable for all the non supporters. What led to what I imagine many non-supporters going “underground”, protecting their personal privacy, for fear of what the insidious were capable of.

    And now, here we are. At the other side of exhaling from the ultimate climax to this ongoing story. An uber revelation.

    Pardon me for thinking out loud, but it occurs to me. If they are capable of this sort of behavior towards strangers, critics on social media, who seek to expose the truths….what about the insiders, the people most intimately associated with them. Namely, the children. And relatives.


  9. As I read the filth being posted, I realized one thing. You are reaping what you’ve sowed.

    Your opinion is noted.

    That is a serious threat and does have consequences that you will eventually face.

    Actually, it was not a “threat.” It was a statement of fact. She has a public blog and public Facebook page where she purports to be a “homesteader.” She is a fraud. I am making public commentary on her public commentary.

    You know what, Anonymous Chickenshit Person? You can go out here and start a blog and talk about me all day long if you wish. Provided you do not maliciously lie about me (you know, like stating that somebody drove somebody else to “suicide” when they didn’t commit suicide at all), you’re completely within your legal rights to do so. I hope you have a nice time.

    Oh, wait. Maytag? You’ve already done that, haven’t you?


  10. Out trots “Anonymously Yours” bright eyed and bushy tailed, pulsing with poor impulse control, to share with the world her anticipation of ” the consequences you will eventually face “. Someone, oh and if we think real hard we will know who this sniveling coward is, thinks she loves the smell of napalm in the morning, but doesn’t know jack shit beyond the fantasy she has created in her own mind.


  11. Thank you for sharing your story and Nathan’s music with us. What a gifted musician and a great loss to your family, friends and fans.
    The authors of the vicious “love letters” are embittered failures, whose “revenge” is no more than a plate of tepid and spoiled pancakes.
    How different life would be if their toxicity was replaced with humility and hard work.


  12. Yes, Thank you for bravely sharing, and continuing to expose these liars and fraudsters. Your work speaks so clearly of your integrity, good heart and quest for the truth, despite all of the pain you have endured.
    You have put together a picture of such a startling and grim reality. Despite the fact that I have followed this right from the start, it is still both sickening and enlightening to see it all stitched together so cohesively.
    The Nauglers are empty shells of human beings and they will continue to fade into nothingness, having never accomplished anything of value in their lives. The legacy they leave for their children will only be hatred, discord and extreme poverty.
    Thank you for sharing your beloved son Nathan’s legacy of accomplishment and beauty.


  13. Anonymously Yours doesn’t have good reading comprehension skills or the individual would know that what you had written was that if Nicole made her pages private, there would be nothing available to the public to comment upon.


    It’s not as though others haven’t given Nicole the exact same advice and it’s within the post!


  14. Anonymously Yours writes:
    “As I read the filth being posted, I realized one thing. You are reaping what you’ve sowed. Your “blog” is used as a form of harassment and bullying, yet you want to cry that you’re being harassed and bullied.”

    Sally didn’t cry once. She laid it out and let the reader come to whatever logical conclusion they might come to. Emphasis on *logic*, something you clearly haven’t mastered.

    Then, you go on to write, “You said, if “Nicole” shut down her blog, page, etc. that you would go away. That is a serious threat and does have consequences that you will eventually face.”

    Not only do you have trouble with logic, reading comprehension is not a strong suit, either. The BLB wrote that if Nicole made her blog private, shut it down, etc. then the BLB would have nothing to write about. But I see how you are seriously lacking…is that the result of your own ‘un-schooling’?

    The best thing you wrote was at the very end, when you wrote, “…goodbye!”


  15. So sorry to read about your son. My heart goes out to you.

    There is a lot to take in from all of this, not only from what you have posted but also from what I have seen on the various facebook pages. (I have heard about all the threats and harassment and seen the threats happen in real time! which is one reason why I will not comment on there.)

    How can people read all of the stuff and then clap them on the back and say how wonderful they are.
    This blog is an eye opener! I find it interesting when I see little snippets re-posted on facebook. I wonder if the people who comment in shock at what they are being fed ever actually come over and read the whole post to see the context in which it has been written. Mind you – if they follow the blessed one’s example, they will just “look at the cover and not read the book!”


  16. Where I found the link we were warned to get tissues and she wasn’t exagerating. First I want to express my condolences and thank you for sharing him today so we can all hear his beautiful music. I am so truly sorry some scum has decided he could try to be so horrible it is unexcusable! Again I can’t express just how sorry I am both for your loss and for the pos.


  17. so we can all hear his beautiful music.

    Ah, the music. I can be somewhat obnoxious and pushy about the music. There is a lot of it. And every song is my “favorite.”

    Also, if you look him up on YouTube, there is a whole lot of it there. Be warned that there is a drummer in New York and a jazz musician who live(d) – I think he’s died – in Chicago by the same name.

    Here’s one to get you started.


  18. Thank you for sharing your son with us. And thank you for the courage it took to even start this blog. And to “anonymously yours”, I highly doubt that you are anything more than a wannabe tough girl with way too much time on her hands. At least your veiled threats are entertaining and completely elevate the Nauglers to white trash status. Pathetic. Frankly, I am just waiting for the shoe to drop, when CHFS shows up this time, there will not be any “lucky” breaks and they are coming, mark my words.


  19. Sally,

    You, your husband, family and friends have my most heartfelt sincere condolences. And I truly mean that from the bottom of my heart. Nathan’s music is beautiful.
    Thank you for sharing him with all of us.

    You are an amazing and brave woman for taking a stand and fighting back the way that you have.
    Sadly, I too know what it is like to have to decide weather I would remain a victim or take a stand….and stand up to injustices and try to DO something about it.
    It takes a lot of courage to that.
    Lady, your one tuff cookie in my book !!!!

    Thank you for taking that stand and making this blog so that the real truth can be heard and at least talked about.
    After reading everything above, I feel these children are in more trouble than any of us ever imagined.
    Joe and Nicole’s hearts are truly black and hate run’s in their veins to have stooped to this level.

    That is why NONE of us should ever give up or give in. Someone is going to have to help those kids walk out of the Blessed Little Hell they are in. So keep documenting everything like you and others have. Hopefully one day it will be useful to authorities to get those kids out of there.

    I’m so sorry to hear about your tremendous loss Sally, and so sorry your having to go through this. Your in my thoughts and prayers.


  20. My condolences on the loss of your son. Know that he will always be in you heart and his wonderful music will live on.

    Having been raised in a large family, I was taught, as were my sibling “If you can’t respect others, you can’t respect yourself.”

    The “Love Letters” are proof of the disrespect these individuals have for themselves. Sadly this attitude will pass on to their next generation, by example. It is not a freedom of speech issue, it’s an insecurity, it causes them to lash out in disrespect. If intense treatment is initiated , there may be hope for some of the children.


  21. Your son was such a talented musician. Thank you so much for linking to his music. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s every parents nightmare. It makes me wonder if perhaps that’s why you’re trying to bring awareness to the craziness that is the Nauglers. You don’t want to see any more parents bury their children…. especially when it can be prevented. I don’t think the Nauglers realize just how neglectful their parenting is. Peace to you.


  22. Stalking and vandalism at the motel, did they ever file a police report? Did they report it to the hotel? After all, if their vehicle was vandalized (as they reported on their blog), then it reflects on the motel and they need to review any security tapes and revisit their practices. Not to mention if there were damages the Naugler’s deserve recovery of their possessions or their values.

    However, if they didn’t bother to notify the motel staff or police about what happened at the time, their credibility is shot. It’s complaining about something may not have happened and worse, they’re irresponsibly damaging another business. Why would they do that? Perhaps to distract people from asking what condition the vehicle was in before it was vandalized (if that’s what happened) or why in the world they didn’t do a better job of stowing their possessions within the vehicle, taking it into their motel room, locking it up at the homestead or putting it into storage.

    In addition, good sense says not to leave items of value (sentimental or financial) in a vehicle at a motel. Doing so isn’t out of character for Joe and Nicole Naugler. How many failed gardens have they racked up to date?


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