I am an old woman. 🙂 But I am the least-prudish old woman you’ll ever meet. This is my personal feeling about all this.
Jacob Naugler just turned 18 today. Faith is 19. They are way too young, in this society, to be saddling themselves with responsibilities they cannot even imagine. Whether or not anyone thinks that is “good” or “bad” doesn’t matter. It is what it is. Life in modern society is tough enough in the best situation.
I couldn’t give two hoots whether they are married legally or not. Doesn’t matter to me in the slightest, in terms of so-called “morality.”
But marriage serves a purpose way beyond “the state-sanctioned process of getting permission to be a couple.” Marriage is a legal contract. Jacob and Faith don’t have a pot to pee in (LOL) right now, but let’s say that something horrible happened, and Jacob was hit by a Lowe’s truck on his way to work and killed. And let’s say that suddenly Jacob’s estate is worth a whole pile of money. If Faith is not married to Jacob, Faith would get absolutely nothing. She would have zero rights. The kid might, but inheritance laws surrounding minor children are onerous and Faith wouldn’t like them. She would have to answer to a court-appointed guardian for every dime.
There is a really, really good reason why LGBT people have fought so long and so hard for the right to get that “state-sanctioned process of getting permission to be a couple.” It’s not just inheritance rights. It’s also the right to visit your spouse in the hospital should the need arise. It’s the right to file a joint income-tax return.
Should adults, knowing all this, choose to just merrily forge ahead and have fifty kids without bothering with that “state-sanctioned process of getting permission to be a couple,” that is, of course, their right. It’s a very stupid decision in most cases, though.
That said, I would personally be opposed to Jacob and Faith getting married at this point. They most likely won’t be together after a short time (a couple of years, maybe). The odds of their relationship falling apart are extremely high, much higher than if they were older, educated and settled. And marriage will just make the break-up harder and more complicated.
Even if they do make it as a couple, they still face needless hardships due to this silly decision. They are more than likely going to be far poorer throughout their entire lives than they would have been otherwise. They have placed roadblocks in their path that didn’t need to be there.
But the original comment, made by the unfortunate Bridget, wasn’t about whether or not marriage is wise in these circumstances. The comment was that Jacob cannot be considered some great role model.
And Bridget is right.
Anyone, and I mean anyone, with the proper, functioning plumbing and some cooperative gametes can produce a pregnancy, provided there is a partner. It doesn’t mean that the world needs to have your DNA replicated. It doesn’t take talent. It doesn’t take intelligence. It doesn’t mean you are reliable, or hard-working.
It just means you are hard.