I probably cannot convince you, Nicole, but yes, your shitshack is worse than that.
Your link, of course, is to a Facebook page that is highly biased against Child Protectives Services of any sort, any where. In following your story, which you and Joe wanted to “go viral,” I have been struck by how many of your followers are people who themselves have had dealings with CPS, and in almost every case, they are pure as the driven snow and did absolutely nothing to merit the attention of the state.
Makes me wonder how we managed to raise a son to adulthood, and home school him for five of those years, and never once had a single problem with the state at all.
Guess we were just lucky, huh?
Anyway, that money is not payment for “corruption” and “child trafficking.” It is money the federal government uses to help states, to use the federal government’s terminology, “incentivize adoption.”
Whether you understand it or not, there really are children out there who don’t have any family. Or they don’t have any family that is worthy of the name.
When your case came to my attention, I was so appalled by the whole thing that I had a wee conversation, over a beer, with a friend who is a deputy sheriff. I couldn’t imagine why the state would put your children back in those horrible conditions. It made no sense to me at all.
You know what he said? You wanna know?
He said that he’s seen so much worse that it would curl my hair. He said that the state is so overwhelmed with children who need to be removed from terrible conditions that they have to really do what amounts to triage. And that the ones who end up in foster care with parental rights totally terminated are usually those cases that involve drugs, particularly meth.
He said that if a parent in Kentucky makes the slightest effort, even a teensy one like buying a four-walled garden shed to replace a shitshack, that will be enough to get custody returned. Kentucky does not want your children. Kentucky wants you to pay the bill to raise your children.
I know your kids are cute. But there are a lot of cute kids out there. Lots of them. And Nicole, the truth is that nobody but you and Joe wants your children. Nobody. I’m sure that stings a little bit, but you need to face it. Nobody is laying in wait to try to take your children away from you. Nobody is frothing at the mouth in anticipation of spending the bazillion dollars per child it costs to raise a kid to adulthood.
[And I am quite aware that you will screen shot the above paragraph and post it so your followers can be all aghast that I would dare say that nobody wants your precious little darlings. You will be taking it totally out of context and you know you will be doing that, and I know you will be doing that, but you will do it anyway. You will not include the paragraph directly below where I say the exact same thing about my own child.]
We loved our son. We loved him beyond anything you can imagine. I know this because we would have moved heaven and earth before we would have allowed him to sleep on a plywood shelf in a shitshack. But we knew that nobody wanted him but us. He shared our DNA. So we thought he was the living embodiment of the greatest child ever born. Parents feel that way. They are driven by their DNA to feel that way. But nobody else does.
So, having established that none of us want your children, and that the state wants you to earn money and spend it raising your kids yourself, why are there funds available to “incentivize adoption”?
That’s because there are older children in the foster care system that are at risk of never finding a home. Every year, thousands of unwanted children reach adulthood and are never adopted by anyone. Some of them have behavioral or emotional problems that make it difficult to find anyone who wants them.
Remember, your kids are cute and nobody but you wants them. Imagine if they were not cute. Or imagine if one of them had cerebral palsy. Or imagine if one of them was on the autism spectrum. Or imagine if one of them had severe learning disabilities, or a good case of juvenile diabetes.
That money goes to help families who are willing to take children that nobody else wants, but that need expensive counseling (imagine the kid who watched Daddy kill Mommy), or expensive medical care (foster child right up the road from me needed and got heart valve surgery – he is officially considered “hard-to-place”). Or maybe the family is more than willing to adopt the hard-to-place child, but desperately needs for Mommy to take four months off work to get things ready, or to help the child adapt, only they cannot afford that, so they cannot adopt.
Adoption assistance exists to help parents afford the costs associated with raising a child adopted from foster care. By providing financial assistance to these families, the State and Federal subsidy programs minimize the financial barriers to adopting a child from foster care so that more children in care are placed in permanent homes and families.
From the PDF linked to above, Federal Adoption Assistance
It’s no different than it is with rescue dogs. Cute little puppies get adopted quickly. Older dogs more slowly. And older dogs with problems often do not get adopted at all.
And sure, the money is given directly to the states, and the states pretty much decide how to spend it (with some limitations from the federal government), but remember, they don’t get it unless they get these hard-to-place children adopted and they don’t get hard-to-place children adopted unless they help families do that. If the state just took the money and pocketed it and helped no one, they wouldn’t get much. [That link, by the way, is to a site that appears to be pretty critical of the system.]
Besides, aren’t you the one in favor of government being more about states and counties and local government, and less about federal government?
Or would you rather see little Billy, with his diabetes and partial blindness, just live in foster care until he’s 18? He can’t go “home.” His mother is dead, and his father is in prison for killing her. His relatives don’t want him and refuse to take him.
Hell, instead of having Baby #12, since the world already has all the Naugler genes it will ever need, why don’t you adopt one of those kids? You and Joe are perfect parents. Why not spread the love a little bit?