In the pet peeve department, this rates pretty high with me.
Don’t use that expression on this blog. Just don’t.
“I was so lucky to be gifted. . .”
You see this all the time. I don’t know why it has become such a popular usage, but just stop it. Gift is not a fucking verb. (Before you correct me, I know that it actually can be used that way and it is technically correct.) The word you’re looking for is give or given.
I gave some thought to this. Why do I hate it so much? Why is it that when somebody begins with “I was gifted XYZ,” I never get past gifted and quit reading what they’ve written, and furthermore, I have a visceral, instinctive lower opinion of that person? My image of them is of superficiality and a kind of obsession with material things.
Language evolves. I know that. But what I am describing is how I respond when I see the word used that way. I can’t help it. It probably isn’t rational, but it’s what my knee-jerk response is.
With that usage, the word seems to focus on the gift, the material object, not the giver. Nobody ever says, “I was gifted. . .” and follows that with “some time with my friend” or “a renewed interest in life.” It’s always used in reference to some piece of Chinese-made crap.
You can be given talent (meaning you’re born with it). You can be given freedom (meaning that your ancestors somehow obtained it for you). And using the active voice, you can give an explanation, or you can give someone sympathy or understanding.
You can also give a material thing, some Chinese-made crap. But consider these two sentences.
I was given a new car.
I was gifted a new car.
The first sentence, at least to me, seems to put the emphasis on the generosity of the giver. I was given. I was the recipient of some other person’s kindness and love.
The other one seems to focus on the car and somehow conveys the idea that I was special and probably deserved it. It’s pretentious as hell.
When I was thinking about this, I looked on the Google to see if I was the only weird person on earth to hate this expression, and thankfully I am not.
While the dictionary makes it clear that gift can be used a verb, so it’s not grammatically incorrect, lots of other people think doing so in the way I have illustrated above simply sucks massive amounts of dirt.
Why do I give a damn?
I do not know.